Dear New Mom Returning to Work After Baby
Dear New Mom Returning to Work after Baby,
Hello there, new mom. I hope that you are adjusting well to motherhood. It can be one crazy ride. One minute, you are on top of the world with your heart exploding from love. The very next, you are sitting on the bathroom floor sobbing and missing your old life. Motherhood is a humbling experience, that is for sure. On top of all that, you are heading back to work soon. Something that all new moms dread long before their little one even arrives. I’m here to tell you that everything will be okay. I Promise.
You were a person before you were a mother. You had your own interests, your own friends, and own career. It’s easy to lose yourself when you become a mom, but it is important that you don’t. Holding on to these things will make you whole and overall a much happier mom to be around. Don’t for one-second buy into the hype that it makes you selfish. Excuse my language, but, that is bullshit. A happy and confident mom is better than an unfulfilled and resentful mom any day of the week.
Working will also be beneficial for your marriage. Truth be told, your spouse will be around a lot longer than your kids (hopefully). Studies show that couples that have dual incomes tend to have fewer fights over finances. There is less griping about spending and less financial stress.
Going back to work gives others an opportunity to bond with your children as well. I am lucky to have my mother-in-law and grandma care for my children when I am working. They cherish their time together and share such an incredible bond. It has been so special to see.If your kids are in a daycare setting, they have the opportunity to be exposed to different kids and caregivers. They will be well-rounded and very adaptable, which is are awesome traits to have in your children.
Finally, you are giving your children an incredible gift. If you have daughters, you are showing them how to be a strong, confident, and independent woman. For your sons, you are teaching them that women are capable of being an equal and deserve to have every opportunity that men receive. Regardless of gender, you are teaching your children tenacity, grit, hard work and perseverance. You are modeling how to effectively balance work and home and showing them that they can “have it all”. Every time you share with them something you are proud of, you show them that pursuing their passion and dreams really does pay off. These are gifts that will last a lifetime and something that you should be very proud of.
In closing, I know that this can be an unbelievably difficult time. Let’s be honest, it really stinks. The first day that you leave your little one, it will feel like your heart is being ripped from your chest. But please know two things 1.) it is much harder for you than it is for your child 2.) it does get easier, I promise!
You are a wonderful mother and are doing the very best for your child. At the end of the day, that is all that matters.
Keep up the great work, Mama!
A fellow working mom
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